Leveraging Social Charm for Further Success
Forbes published an article a few years ago that looked at how seduction could impact the results of negotiations in the corporate world. Not surprising: flirtation was described as “empowering.” Researchers from the University of California, Berkeley, and the London School of Economics found that flirtation “conveys assertiveness and power, from someone who is also concerned about satisfying their own interests.”
That combination led to by study participants (in negotiations with both men AND women). The wave of sexual harassment that’s taken over the Western World and the #MeToo movement has made us afraid of this life energy that’s innate inside us. It is part of our vitality and an essential component of our success. We don’t need to go to the extreme; we can just find a good balance of flirting that honors our boundaries and intention.
Think about some of the leaders of the past few decades… The Dalai Lama, Golda Meir, Barack Obama, Michelle Obama, and Oprah Winfrey, to name a few. Why do people follow them? They are real, genuine, self-aware, confident people, and yet that’s still not all of it. They all possess, each in their own way, that unique something that makes us want to listen to them. They captivate us. We are attracted by them. They are magnetic. They have this invisible allure that pulls us towards them. They have mastered the art of Social Charm, unlocked it within themselves, and used it to connect with everyone they meet. When they are around you, they make you feel like you are the only person in the world. As change-makers in your organization, you are faced with good days and bad days.
When chaos hits, other than the fact that you’re the CEO or top executive, do others follow you? Do they look up to you for leadership and guidance? Are you calm and confident in the face of difficulties? Do you know how to motivate and enroll others into possibilities through the positive aspects of your personality? Well, if you want to embody what these change-makers have, I recommend you master what I call.
We do this because at one point we start to believe that it is a form of manipulation, but it’s not (when used with the right intentions). When you fully embody the 5 elements of Somatic Intelligence, people gravitate toward you naturally. You shift from formal power to personal power, which follows you everywhere and affects the outcomes. It’s about pulling, not pushing. And it makes you more memorable, helping you build long-term relationships, and gaining more influence power.
To be more successful in your personal life or professional life, the goal is to have a higher ratio of memorable to non-memorable connections.
As change-makers, you need to make your engagements more memorable than your competition to have more influence and power. This is essential to your success.
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