How to heal past trauma & process frozen emotions impacting your performance
Witnessing is a process of healing the nervous system.
When we heal a part of ourselves that has become frozen over time, it makes available to us these parts of ourselves. It opens up more space, leading to more creativity, confidence, and intimacy. Energy flows where there once was a block. In this space, we can tap into extra resources inside ourselves to go after what we truly want and become a better version of ourselves.
When we’re not supported during a time of deep trauma or past hurt, and we are left alone emotionally feeling abandoned with the difficult emotions, it damages our nervous system. The body recognizes the emotion, such as pain or sadness, and realizes it’s too much for the nervous system to handle alone, so it automatically shuts down these areas to protect us.
The problem starts when the area remains shut down as we progress through our adult lives, limiting us in certain areas where we are not getting the results we wish for or deserve. We might feel scared, numb, or angry when getting close to them, not even knowing what triggered the feeling in the first place.
You don’t have to go through something super traumatic to reap the benefits of having your past experiences being felt. We all have frozen emotions, whether we are aware of them or not.
Witnessing is the process of healing the frozen areas. It’s a process of healing the nervous system through a powerful felt experience.
While witnessing heals unprocessed emotions, somatic practices can be used to shift our core and our embodiment, so it is in resonance with the life we desire. This means matching our inner and outer worlds. Many of my executive coaching clients say it is a more holistic approach to healing and achieving.
Our Somatic Imprint is influenced deeply by our ancestral line.
What was passed on to us somatically from our past generations also impacts our emotional resilience and the results we experience in life. What did I learn as a child that transferred from my grandparents to my parents, to me? What did I take on that I am not aware of? How much room was there for my emotional life to be received? What did I assume from my experience? And how is all of this impacting the results in my life today?
Children learn by copying what they see and experience from the adults around them – the good and the bad. For example, a father who struggles to connect to others transfers to his daughter, unknowingly, the sense of not belonging. This child grows into an adult and constantly tries to belong. A mother who constantly gets angry and tells her son to toughen up teaches him that he cannot be loved and received as is or show vulnerability. He assumes he is unlovable and goes on to look for women who abuse him and are unavailable emotionally. The same imprint also causes him to sabotage himself financially. A father who left his family when his child was 2 years old, and a mother who lost the home because she struggled financially. Her child learns to play it safe in her life and is always struggling with finances. She dreams of launching her own business but freezes every time she wants to go after what her heart really desires.
As I work with my executive coaching clients, I see this repeat all the time – what we didn’t receive as children is the lack we repeat today. And what we did receive is our strength. If our emotional world was not received fully by the adults around us we struggle in that area. Yet, we don’t make the connection between our struggle and the Somatic Imprint.
Heal the Somatic Imprint and it will shift the area in your life where you feel stuck.
Imagine having total clarity of your Somatic Imprint and the root cause of what is blocking you. How would this impact what is possible for you in life? The quality of your life? Your relationships? What would become available to you?
We can connect emotionally our nervous system to another’s to allow for the emotions to process and release. When we get to resonance with another human being – synching between both our nervous systems – feeling felt, the body knows how to discharge. We are suddenly not alone in the experience anymore. This powerful felt process is called witnessing. This felt experience helps us to move through our emotions and to heal.
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